That's Not What I Meant!

How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships

Author: Deborah Tannen

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062210114

Category: Psychology

Page: 224

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At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it's often not what you say but how you say it that counts. Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don't Understand. In That's Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood. At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen's classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn't said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.

Summary of "That’s Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships" by Deborah Tannen

Author: Delia Ostach

Publisher: GRIN Verlag

ISBN: 3668625549

Category: Literary Collections

Page: 5

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Abstract from the year 2015 in the subject English Language and Literature Studies - Linguistics, University of Paderborn (Institut für Anglistik und Amerikanistik), course: Contemporary Language Course Intermediate, language: English, abstract: This is a summary of Deborah Tannen's "That’s Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships", which was published in 1986. It deals with the language in conversations which can cause misunderstandings due to differing interpretations. Tannen divides her work into ten short chapters which fall under the ambit of four more general topics: Linguistic and Conversational Style, Conversational Strategies, Talking at Home: Conversational Style in Close Relationships and What You Can and Can’t Do with Conversational Style.

Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them

Author: Betsy Prioleau

Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company

ISBN: 0393089916

Category: Social Science

Page: 288

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"Lose yourself: Swoon has wicked fun answering that age-old query: What do women want?"—Chicago Tribune Contrary to popular myth and dogma, the men who consistently beguile women belie the familiar stereotypes: satanic rake, alpha stud, slick player, Mr. Nice, or big-money mogul. As Betsy Prioleau, author of Seductress, points out in this surprising, insightful study, legendary ladies’ men are a different, complex species altogether, often without looks or money. They fit no known template and possess a cache of powerful erotic secrets. With wit and erudition, Prioleau cuts through the cultural lore and reveals who these master lovers really are and the arts they practice to enswoon women. What she discovers is revolutionary. Using evidence from science, popular culture, fiction, anthropology, and history, and from interviews with colorful real-world ladykillers, Prioleau finds that great seducers share a constellation of unusual traits. While these men run the gamut, they radiate joie de vivre, intensity, and sex appeal; above all, they adore women. They listen, praise, amuse, and delight, and they know their way around the bedroom. And they’ve finessed the hardest part: locking in and revving desire. Women never tire of these fascinators and often, like Casanova’s conquests, remain besotted for life. Finally, Prioleau takes stock of the contemporary culture and asks: where are the Casanovas of today? After a critique of the twenty-first-century sexual malaise—the gulf between the sexes and women’s record discontent—she compellingly argues that society needs ladies’ men more than ever. Groundbreaking and provocative, Swoon is underpinned with sharp analysis, brilliant research, and served up with seductive verve.

Down to Earth Sociology: 14th Edition

Introductory Readings, Fourteenth Edition

Author: James M. Henslin

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1439108951

Category: Social Science

Page: 624

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For thirty-five years and through thirteen editions, Jim Henslin's Down to Earth Sociology has opened new windows onto the social realities that shape our world. Now in its fourteenth edition, the most popular anthology in sociology includes new articles on our changing world while also retaining its classic must-read essays. Focusing on social interaction in everyday life, the forty-six selections bring students face-to-face with the twin projects of contemporary sociology: understanding the individual's experience of society and analyzing social structure. The fourteenth edition's exceptional new readings include selections on the role of sympathy in everyday life, mistaken perceptions of the American family, the effects of a criminal record on getting a job, and the major social trends affecting our future. Together with these essential new articles, the selections by Peter Berger, Herbert Gans, Erving Goffman, Donna Eder, Zella Luria, C. Wright Mills, Deborah Tannen, Barrie Thorne, Sidney Katz, Philip Zimbardo, and many others provide firsthand reporting that gives students a sense of "being there." Henslin also explains basic methods of social research, providing insight into how sociologists explore the social world. The selections in Down to Earth Sociology highlight the most significant themes of contemporary sociology, ranging from the sociology of gender, power, politics, and religion to the contemporary crises of racial tension, crime, rape, poverty, and homelessness.

Leadership Conversations

Challenging High Potential Managers to Become Great Leaders

Author: Alan S. Berson,Richard G. Stieglitz

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1118551869

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 320

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Conversation techniques and tools that can help strong managersbecome great leaders Often the very same skills and traits that enable rising starsto achieve success "tenacity, aggressiveness, self-confidence"become liabilities when promoted into a leadership track. Whilemanagers' conversations are generally transactional and centered onthe task at hand, leaders must focus on people, asking greatquestions and aligning them with the vision for the future.Leadership mindsets and skills can be developed, and LeadershipConversations provides practical guidance for connecting withothers in ways that transform each interaction into an opportunityfor organizational and personal growth. Identifies four types of conversation every leader must master:building relationships, making decisions, taking action, anddeveloping others Provides an action plan for boosting your personal leadershippotential, as well for developing leadership skills in others Draws on the authors' rich experience coaching and working withleaders at a wide range of organizations, including NASA, the U.S.Navy, intelligence agencies, Boeing, Gillette, Bausch & Lomb,and Georgetown University Leadership Conversations is required reading for bothhigh-potential managers looking to make it to the next level andleaders looking to develop their people.

The Confident Woman

How to Take Charge and Recharge Your Life

Author: Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307809269

Category: Self-Help

Page: 368

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How Confident Are You? Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz has won national awards for her work in women's health and has enjoyed the success some people only dream of: a prosperous professional life; a long, happy marriage; two Stanford-educated children; and a bestselling book, The Superwoman Syndrome, which coined a term for a generation of women. Despite all of her accomplishments, however, she struggled with the issue of confidence. After conducting extensive research, she found that she was far from alone: Many women experience the paradox of enjoying success in their business and personal lives while lacking confidence in themselves. The Confident Woman focuses on the issues that women face in growing up as girls in this society. Using a series of seven steps, complete with techniques and questions, Shaevitz presents an accessible and proven program that helps women regain their confidence. It is written for women of all ages, ending with an epilogue for mothers who want practical tips for raising confident daughters. In clear, concise prose -- filled with anecdotes and humor -- The Confident Woman focuses on what women say they want: practical advice that they can use now. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Intercultural Communication: A Critical Introduction

Author: Ingrid Piller

Publisher: Edinburgh University Press

ISBN: 0748688323

Category: Language Arts & Disciplines

Page: 208

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Combining perspectives from discourse analysis and sociolinguistics, this introduction provides students with a comprehensive, up-to-date and critical overview of the field of intercultural communication.Ingrid Piller explains communication in context using two main approaches.The first treats cultural identity, difference and similarity as discursive constructions. The second, informed by bilingualism studies, highlights the use and prestige of different languages and language varieties as well as the varying access that speakers have to them.Linguistics students will find this book a useful tool for studying language and globalization as well as applied linguistics.

Wie man Freunde gewinnt

Die Kunst, beliebt und einflussreich zu werden

Author: Dale Carnegie

Publisher: S. Fischer Verlag

ISBN: 3104031479

Category: Self-Help

Page: 304

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Dieses Buch zeigt Ihnen: - wie man Freunde gewinnt - wie man auf neuen Wegen zu neuen Zielen gelangt - wie man beliebt wird - wie man seine Umwelt beeinflußt - wie man mehr Ansehen erlangt - wie man im Beruf erfolgreicher wird - wie man Streit vermeidet - wie man ein guter Redner und brillanter Gesellschafter wird - wie man den Charakter seiner Mitmenschen erkennt - wie man seine Mitarbeiter anspornt und vieles mehr...

Counseling Criminal Justice Offenders

Author: Ruth E. Masters

Publisher: SAGE

ISBN: 0761929347

Category: Psychology

Page: 280

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Counseling Criminal Justice Offenders, Second Edition offers individuals a practical preparation for communicating with offenders. Recognising that individuals who counsel offenders in the criminal justice system often have not had the extensive training of a licensed psychologist. This book gives essential information, proven systems that have stood the test of time in American prisons and appropriate and effective counsellor attitudes.

The Conflict Paradox

Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes

Author: Bernard Mayer

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1118852958

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 336

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Find the roadmap to the heart of the conflict The Conflict Paradox is a guide to taking conflict to a more productive place. Written by one of the founders of the professional conflict management field and co-published with the American Bar Association, this book outlines seven major dilemmas that conflict practitioners face every day. Readers will find expert guidance toward getting to the heart of the conflict and will be challenged to adopt a new way to think about the choices disputants face,. They will also be offered practical tools and techniques for more successful intervention. Using stories, experiences, and reflective exercises to bring these concepts to life, the author provides actionable advice for overcoming roadblocks to effective conflict work. Disputants and interveners alike are often stymied by what appear to be unacceptable alternatives,. The Conflict Paradox offers a new way of understanding and working with these so that they become not obstacles but opportunities for helping people move through conflict successfully.. Examine the contradictions at the center of almost all conflicts Learn how to bring competition and cooperation, avoidance and engagement, optimism and realism together to make for more power conflict intervention Deal effectively with the tensions between emotions, and logic, principles and compromise, neutrality and advocacy, community and autonomy Discover the tools and techniques that make conflicts less of a hurdle to overcome and more of an opportunity to pursue Conflict is everywhere, and conflict intervention skills are valuable far beyond the professional and legal realms. With insight and creativity, solutions are almost always possible. For conflict interveners and disputants looking for an effective and creative approach to understanding and working with conflict , The Conflict Paradox provides a powerful and important roadmap for conflict intervention.

Gender and Communication at Work

Author: Mary Barrett,Marilyn Davidson

Publisher: Gower Publishing, Ltd.

ISBN: 0754638405

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 294

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An up-to-date review of theory and research on how gender affects communication at work, it considers 'new' workplaces such as e-business and non-managerial work as well as cross-cultural dimensions and service sector work. The book encompasses a wide geographic perspective with research findings on a variety of business cultures.

I Only Say this Because I Love You

How the Way We Talk Can Make Or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives

Author: Deborah Tannen

Publisher: Random House Incorporated

ISBN: N.A

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

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The bestselling author of "You Just Don't Understand" and "Talking from 9 to 5" shows how to understand talk in families and how to do it better.

Gender and Discourse

Author: Deborah Tannen

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 9780199727827

Category: Language Arts & Disciplines

Page: 216

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Deborah Tannen's You Just Don't Understand spent nearly four years (in cloth and paper) on The New York Times Best Seller list and has sold over a million and a half copies. Clearly, Tannen's insights into how and why women and men so often misunderstand each other when they talk has touched a nerve. For years a highly respected scholar in the field of linguistics, she has now become widely known for her work on how conversational style differences associated with gender affect relationships. Her life work has demonstrated how close and intelligent analysis of conversation can reveal the extraordinary complexities of social relationships--including relationships between men and women. Now, in Gender and Discourse, Tannen has gathered together six of her scholarly essays, including her newest and previously unpublished work in which language and gender are examined through the lens of "sex-class-linked" patterns, rather than "sex-linked" patterns. These essays provide a theoretical backdrop to her best-selling books--and an informative introduction which discusses her field of linguistics, describes the research methods she typically uses, and addresses the controversies surrounding her field as well as some misunderstandings of her work. (She argues, for instance, that her cultural approach to gender differences does not deny that men dominate women in society, nor does it ascribe gender differences to women's "essential nature.") The essays themselves cover a wide range of topics. In one, she analyzes a number of conversational strategies--such as interruption, topic raising, indirection, and silence--and shows that, contrary to much work on language and gender, no strategy exclusively expresses dominance or submissiveness in conversation--interruption (or overlap) can be supportive, silence and indirection can be used to control. It is the interactional context, the participants' individual styles, and the interaction of their styles, Tannen shows, that result in the balance of power. She also provides a fascinating analysis of four groups of males and females (second-, sixth-, and tenth-grade students, and twenty-five year olds) conversing with their best friends, and she includes an early article co-authored with Robin Lakoff that presents a theory of conversational strategy, illustrated by analysis of dialogue in Ingmar Bergman's Scenes from a Marriage. Readers interested in the theoretical framework behind Tannen's work will find this volume fascinating. It will be sure to interest anyone curious about the crucial yet often unnoticed role that language and gender play in our daily lives.

Intercultural Alliances

Critical Transformation

Author: Mary Jane Collier

Publisher: SAGE

ISBN: 0761925902

Category: Language Arts & Disciplines

Page: 340

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The 25th volume of the International and Intercultural Communication Annual offers a variety of perspectives on culture, identity, and the formation of personal and political alliances.

The Challenger Sale

Kunden herausfordern und erfolgreich überzeugen

Author: Matthew Dixon,Brent Adamson

Publisher: Redline Wirtschaft

ISBN: 3864147239

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 288

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Gibt es ein Rezept für Verkaufserfolg? Die meisten Führungskräfte im Vertrieb verweisen hier zuerst auf eine gute Kundenbeziehung – und sie liegen falsch damit. Die besten Verkäufer versuchen nicht nur einfach eine gute Beziehung zu ihren Kunden aufzubauen – sie stellen primär die Denkweisen und Überzeugungen ihrer Kunden in Frage. Basierend auf einer umfassenden Studie mit mehreren tausend Vertriebsmitarbeitern in unterschiedlichen Branchen und Ländern, zeigt "The Challenger Sale", dass das klassische vertriebliche Vorgehen mit dem Aufbau von Beziehungen immer weniger funktioniert, je komplexer die Lösungen sind. Doch wie unterscheiden sich Fertigkeiten, Verhaltensweisen, Wissen und Einstellung der Spitzenverkäufer vom Durchschnitt? Die Studie zeigt deutlich, dass die Verhaltensweisen, die den Challenger so erfolgreich machen, replizierbar und strukturiert vermittelbar sind. Die Autoren erklären, wie fast jeder Verkäufer, ausgestattet mit den richtigen Werkzeugen, diesen Ansatz erfolgreich umsetzen kann und so höhere Kundenbindung und letztendlich mehr Wachstum generiert. Das Buch ist eine Quelle der Inspiration und hilft dem Leser, sein Profil als Vertriebler zu analysieren und gezielt zu verändern, um am Ende kreativer und besser zu sein.

The Handbook of Intercultural Discourse and Communication

Author: Christina Bratt Paulston,Scott F. Kiesling,Elizabeth S. Rangel

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1444354329

Category: Language Arts & Disciplines

Page: 768

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The Handbook of Intercultural Discourse and Communication brings together internationally-renowned scholars from a range of fields to survey the theoretical perspectives and applied work, including example analyses, in this burgeoning area of linguistics. Features contributions from established researchers in sociolinguistics and intercultural discourse Explores the theoretical perspectives underlying work in the field Examines the history of the field, work in cross-cultural communication, and features of discourse Establishes the scope of this interdisciplinary field of study Includes coverage on individual linguistic features, such as indirectness and politeness, as well as sample analyses of IDC exchanges

12 Rules For Life

Ordnung und Struktur in einer chaotischen Welt - Dieses Buch verändert Ihr Leben!

Author: Jordan B. Peterson

Publisher: Goldmann Verlag

ISBN: 3641239842

Category: Social Science

Page: 576

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Der Nr.1-Bestseller aus den USA: Wie man in einer von Chaos und Irrsinn regierten Welt bei Verstand bleibt! Wie können wir in der modernen Welt überleben? Jordan B. Peterson beantwortet diese Frage humorvoll, überraschend und informativ. Er erklärt, warum wir Kinder beim Skateboarden alleine lassen sollten, welches grausame Schicksal diejenigen ereilt, die alles allzu schnell kritisieren und warum wir Katzen, die wir auf der Straße antreffen, immer streicheln sollten. Doch was bitte erklärt uns das Nervensystem eines Hummers über unsere Erfolgschancen im Leben? Und warum beteten die alten Ägypter die Fähigkeit zu genauer Beobachtung als höchste Gottheit an? Dr. Peterson diskutiert Begriffe wie Disziplin, Freiheit, Abenteuer und Verantwortung und kondensiert Wahrheit und Weisheit der Welt in 12 praktischen Lebensregeln. »12 Rules For Life« erschüttert die Grundannahmen von moderner Wissenschaft, Glauben und menschlicher Natur. Dieses Buch verändert Ihr Leben garantiert!