The New Monogamy

Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

Author: Tammy Nelson

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1608823172

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 232

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Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.

The New Monogamy

Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

Author: Tammy Nelson

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated

ISBN: 9781608823154

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 220

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Helps couples get over past infidelity, draft a definition of monogamy and stick to it so that they can have a lasting relationship. Original.

The New Monogamy

Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

Author: Tammy Nelson

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1608823164

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 232

View: 6245

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Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.

Getting the Sex You Want

Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together

Author: Tammy Nelson

Publisher: Quiver

ISBN: 9781592335268

Category: Self-Help

Page: 224

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Here is a proven couples counseling method applied to sex for the very first time. Communication problems can erode a relationship in and out of the bedroom. This guide takes a proven communication method, which has been used to counsel millions of couples, and applies it to sex for the very first time. The Imago Relationship Therapy, which was pioneered by Harville Hendrix in the national bestseller and self-help classic Getting the Love You Want, shows readers how to understand and build trust with their partners through a unique form of dialogue. New in paperback, Getting the Sex You Want teaches readers how to build sexual communication skills quickly and connect with their partner in a new way. Readers learn exercises that enable them to communicate their sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in their relationship.

The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

Author: Esther Perel

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 0062322605

Category: Psychology

Page: 336

View: 9907

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Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

NOT "Just Friends"

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

Author: Shirley Glass

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1416586407

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 448

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One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

The New I Do

Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua,Vicki Larson

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 158005546X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

Change Happens

When to Try Harder and When to Stop Trying So Hard

Author: Avrum Geurin Weiss

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

ISBN: 1442211512

Category: Self-Help

Page: 144

View: 7139

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Change Happens is at once an emotionally resonant and stimulating book that will touch a deep chord with readers who are seeking to understand the big and small struggles in their lives and an insightful companion for those struggling with a specific change or trying to bring about a change in their lives. Here, Avrum Weiss offers insights and lessons that are relevant to change across all life situations, including change in our personal lives, relationships, places of work, communities, and the larger world. He helps readers understand when trying harder is the best approach to change, and when not trying so hard is more appropriate. Each chapter introduces a key element in the process of change as well as fresh concepts for understanding how best to navigate the changes we all face at one time or another in our lives.

The Myth of Monogamy

Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People

Author: David P. Barash,Judith Eve Lipton

Publisher: Macmillan

ISBN: 9780805071368

Category: Psychology

Page: 240

View: 435

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A lighthearted survey of monogamy and its variations across the animal kingdom challenges the notion that monogamy occurs naturally, profiling examples of animal infidelity and the instincts behind animal sexual behavior. Reprint. 15,000 first printing.

Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?

A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men

Author: Joe Kort

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 144222326X

Category: Psychology

Page: 240

View: 6695

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Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? addresses a topic that many people may have experience with, but don’t know where to go to find the answers. At a time when the definition of marriage is changing, and relationships in general may be fraught with uncertainty about a variety of basic issues, a book that addresses the concerns of women who suspect their men are gay or have gay tendencies can help make sense of a confusing situation and reveal ways in which couples can understand a man’s interest in gay sex and remain married, even happily.

The Five Flirting Styles

Use the Science of Flirting to Attract the Love You Really Want

Author: Jeffrey Hall

Publisher: Harlequin

ISBN: 037389273X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

View: 9671

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Shows those looking for love how to identify their natural flirting style and use it to flirt smarter and attract the best person for them.

The Return of Desire

A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion

Author: Gina Ogden

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

ISBN: 9780834822870

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 224

View: 9065

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Drawing on three decades of experience as a sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Gina Ogden shows you how to: • Open up to the four energies that spark desire • Create heart-to-heart communication with your partner • Transcend guilt, shame, and "good-girls-don't" messages • Help heal the sexual wounds of abuse, addiction, affairs, and low self-esteem • Enjoy sexual pleasure throughout your life span—from new love, to parenthood, and into your golden years To learn more about the author, Gina Ogden, go to www.ginaogden.com.

The Jealousy Workbook

Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships

Author: Kathy Labriola

Publisher: SCB Distributors

ISBN: 0937609641

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 183

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From the initial stages of trying to agree who can do what with whom, through advanced issues such as coping with logistics and seeking compersion, every relationship sooner or later confronts jealousy a " and some relationships do not survive the confrontation. Between these covers you will find forty-two exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counselor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships.

Sex at Dawn

How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

Author: Christopher Ryan,Cacilda Jetha

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061707813

Category: Social Science

Page: 432

View: 735

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In this controversial, thought-provoking, and brilliant book, renegade thinkers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda JethÁ debunk almost everything we “know” about sex, weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality to show how far from human nature monogamy really is. In Sex at Dawn, the authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.

The Ethical Slut

A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

Author: Janet W. Hardy,Dossie Easton

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 0399579664

Category: Self-Help

Page: 320

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The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships. For 20 years The Ethical Slut has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of "more than two": couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

Surviving an Affair

Author: Willard F. Jr. Harley,Jennifer Harley Chalmers

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441242945

Category: Religion

Page: 224

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Infidelity is common, occurring in over half of all marriages. And it is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and wayward spouse. With all that sadness, why do people have affairs? And once trust is broken, how can a couple reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers describe the most common types of affairs, the reasons they begin and end, the best way to end them, and the best way to restore a marriage after an affair. But most importantly, they help readers survive the ordeal by providing them with step-by-step guidance that minimizes suffering and offers hope for rebuilding a loving and trusting marital relationship.

What's Eating You?

A Workbook for Teens with Anorexia, Bulimia & Other Eating Disorders

Author: Tammy Nelson

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1572246073

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 112

View: 9953

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A book about eating disorders for teenagers.

Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy

An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy

Author: Gina Ogden

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1134108850

Category: Psychology

Page: 206

View: 3105

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Winner of the 2014 AASECT Professional Book Award! Look beyond behavioral treatments, pharmaceutical interventions, and performance goals to a more comprehensive picture of what your clients want and need when they enter sex therapy. Gina Ogden is a master therapist, supervisor, researcher, teacher, and author with four decades of helping clients and training health professionals. Her ISIS Wheel of Sexual Experience is an innovative template that recognizes the full range of sexual issues: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy offers you new language to discuss sexual issues and creative ways to engage clients in their own therapeutic process–whether or not you are trained as a sex therapist. The text is organized in four practice-oriented sections that introduce the ISIS Wheel, show you how you can use it with individuals, couples, and groups, and encourage you to explore it on your own.

The Monogamy Myth

A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs

Author: Peggy Vaughan

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 1557048819

Category: Psychology

Page: 256

View: 9627

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One of the most valuable survival guides for men or women recovering from a partner's affair. Featured on Oprah, 48 Hours, CNN, Fox News, and in USA Today In this landmark book, Peggy Vaughan helps us to understand the stages of suspicion, confrontation, and the healing process necessary to recover, including rebuilding self-esteem, the marriage/divorce dilemma, and seeking professional help. Packed with practical, time-tested advice and successful strategies, this authoritative guide reveals: You are not alone—estimates are that at least 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. People from all walks of life have affairs—devoted parents, religious individuals, regardless of income or social class. Our society contributes to the prevalence of affairs. An affair does not mean the end of a marriage. Recovery is fueled by honest, open discussion of the affair. Substantiated by case studies, ongoing research, and the author's own experience, this updated third edition includes information on the role of the Internet in relationships, shares the words of others who are recovering from affairs, and describes the six-step program for establishing communication between partners that can actually prevent affairs.

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Author: Ada Calhoun

Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company

ISBN: 0393254801

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 256

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Inspired by her viral New York Times “Modern Love” essay “The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give”, Ada Calhoun’s memoir is a witty, poignant exploration of the beautiful complexity of marriage. We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single. In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.” Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”